Adopting a child can be a fantastic way to grow your family. It is, however, not as easy as it might seem. Below are five facts you must know when you are considering adoption.
It Isn’t Instant
The adoption process can take much longer than you think. Being matched with a child can take several months or even several years. Once you’ve actually found a child, the actual adoption process can take even longer. In the short term, it’s possible for a child to go from a foster placement to adoption in about six months – but that’s only if all legal matters are resolved.
You may have heard that adoption is expensive, but you might not realize how much it really costs. The average adoption in the United States cost around forty thousand dollars, with costs going up to nearly one hundred thousand dollars in some cases. There are plenty of grants and loans out there for prospective parents, though, and it’s also possible to adopt for much less if you are willing to work with the foster system.
It Can Be Invasive
Those who choose to adopt must prove that they are fit to be parents. Most states require a series of home visits, in which you must open your house to inspection and submit to several interviews. Most adoption agencies also require that you have criminal background checks done and that you have at least two character references. This is all done to ensure the safety of the child, but it can still feel quite intrusive.
It Can Be Tough
Adoption can be hard, especially when dealing with children who have gone through any significant type of trauma. While this might seem tough, the truth is that it’s always tough to raise kids – even if they are yours biologically. Don’t let the difficulty of dealing with a child’s trauma put you off of adoption, but don’t go into the process blind either. Make sure that you know that helping your potential child find a modicum of happiness may be a lengthy process.
There are No Guarantees
Finally, it’s important to remember that there are no guarantees when it comes to adoption. You can work for months to secure a placement only to see it fall apart at the last minute. You can develop a relationship with a child only to find out his or her parents’ rights were not properly respected. Until the moment of adoption comes, this is a process that has very few guarantees.
While adoption can be difficult, it is also very rewarding. You do, however, need to know what you are getting into before you make the commitment. If you are ready for a battle, you can weather the storms to come.